By Jaqui Crooks, EFT Master
Summer’s come!! Here in the UK at least and for once we have sunshine and warmth in our summer and it feels great. It’s what we long for each year and so rarely get and I’m feeling very grateful, especially as I’m off camping for 3 weeks, always a risky business in the UK.
It reminded me of all the times in the past when I’ve been hoping and longing for something and then been disappointed when it didn’t work out as I expected. The camping holidays in the rain, the jobs that I wanted and didn’t get, the relationships that I wanted to be a certain way and weren’t and it was so good to look back and see that life went on and went on well in spite of those disappointments. To notice, from this distance, how the things that happened instead, actually worked out better than they might have if the things I wanted had happened.
I find myself more and more being able to accept that what is, is, and it’s how it’s meant to be and to recognise that if I was able to see the bigger picture in that moment, I would understand why. What I do know is that how I feel about what’s happening in my life is entirely up to me. No one can make me sad, happy, angry, and frightened, without my agreement. That feels such a powerful position to be in, because I know that when I’m feeling any of those things, whenever I’m ready, I can tap and let them go.
If it decided to rain on me in my tent, I have a choice. I can go and get a refreshing, natural shower, pack up and go home, enjoy listening to the sound of rain on the tent roof, enjoy the smell of the earth soaking up the rain, or I could take it personally and moan and grouch and grumble and feel really bad. I know what feels better! And, the great thing is, it’s my choice! I can add to the difficulties by feeling bad, or I can find something to be grateful for and lift my spirits and tapping is such a help.
When we take things personally, when we feel that we’re being punished,” it’s what always happens to me,” “it’s not fair”, then, we lose our power. When we tap to clear the feelings and the original events that created them, we take back our power and create our life as we want to live it.
Whatever is going on for you this summer, take it as an opportunity to take back your power. See those things as a message that something could do with a little clearing, then sit back and enjoy the ride.
To quote my friend Steve Wells, “How do you know that was supposed to happen? Because it did. How do you know it wasn’t supposed to happen? Because it didn’t!” With that as a belief, it’s much easier to stay detached from the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” and find ways to be happy.
Join me in a Tap along and see just how much fun you can have this summer.
Karate:
- Even though this is not working as I want, I’m OK
- Even though it’s not fair, I’m OK
- Even though I feel like this, I deeply and completely accept myself.
ToH: All these feelings,
EB: That make me feel so bad
SE: That keep me stuck
UE: That remind me of old times
UN: That limit me
Ch: That make life hard
CB: That stop me from being me
UA: That rule my life
Karate:
- Even though I know best and I want it the way I planned and it’s not working, I deeply and completely accept the part of me that thinks it knows best.
- Even though I’m angry and upset and I want it to be different and I don’t know how to do that, I’m Ok
- Even though I want it to be different, maybe part of me does know how to do that
Allowing those feelings to go now,
Wherever they come from
Letting them go
Maybe they’ve served their purpose
Maybe I don’t need to be feeling those things right now,
Maybe there are feelings I’d rather feel
And I can
And I will
Karate:
- Even though it’s not how I wanted it to be, the one thing I can make different, is how I feel about it and that I can do!
- Even though it’s not fair and that’s the truth, I choose to find a way to feel good about myself.
- Even though I have all these feeling, I choose to recognise they come from a long way back and maybe I really don’t need to feel them any more.
It’s my life
And I choose to find ways to enjoy it
I choose to feel good about myself
I choose to be easy on myself
I choose to change the only thing I can
I choose to find new ways to be happy
Because that’s what I’m here for.
And I choose to celebrate who I am, where I am now and to remind myself. “It’s all good.”
Jaqui Crooks, EFT Master
www.beacontraining.co.uk
