Carol Look, EFT Master
www.attractingabundance.com
Many people schedule EFT
sessions to address their abundance issues because they think they have the
classic problem, "Fear of Failure." The truth is we all have varying degrees of
the "Fear of Success." If you really want to attract abundance into your life, you
don't need to DO anything more as far as taking actions with your website, your
newsletter, your work life or your brochures-that will come later. What you need to do is CHANGE YOUR ENERGY by
clearing your Fear of Success first.
How do we do this? The
easy way--using EFT to collapse your
fears and identify and clear the reasons you keep sabotaging yourself. First, I recommend all my clients to ask
themselves a few key questions. (Write down your answers and use them for your
targeted EFT statements later.)
·
What is the DOWNSIDE of becoming successful?
·
What feels unsafe to you about getting what you
want?
·
When you picture your success, what
are you afraid of?
·
When you picture being as successful as you say
you want to be, WHO are you afraid of?
·
Why would it be easier to stay where you are?
·
What happened the last time you were
successful?
A major reason people feel afraid to succeed is that they won't
feel safe once they have "arrived" where they are planning on going. Perhaps they won't feel safe "standing out"
in their profession. Maybe a sibling or colleague will be jealous of their
success, maybe they were hurt or betrayed the last time they were
successful.
Suppose you answered the first question with: "The
downside of being successful is that I will stand out and feel exposed to their
jealousy" or "It doesn't feel safe
being successful in my family." These are both excellent targets for EFT and will clear major reasons you
sabotage your success. There are 2 main
approaches you could use as follows:
Use this general theme with your tapping "Even though I'm afraid of success because it doesn't feel
safe--" or
Identify a specific event from the past when someone in your
family WAS jealous (and maybe hurt you), and collapse that incident with EFT.
"Even though the last time I was
successful they criticized me and said I didn't deserve what I got--" For example:
Karate chop point: Even though I don't feel safe when I think
of being successful, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself anyway-Even
though being successful has never felt good in my family, I choose to accept
who I am and how I feel--Even though I'm afraid to be successful and it doesn't
feel safe, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.
Eyebrow: I feel afraid of
being successful.
Side of Eye: I don't really
want to be successful because of them.
Under Eye: I'm afraid of
their reactions.
Under Nose: I remember what
happened before.
Chin: It doesn't feel safe
being successful.
Collarbone: It's dangerous to stand out.
Under Arm: I don't want to
shine.
Top of Head: I'm afraid to stand out in my family.
Eyebrow: I feel afraid of
their reactions.
Side of Eye: I don't want to
be as successful as they are.
Under Eye: In my family you
get criticized for being successful.
Under Nose: I'm afraid so I
sabotage myself.
Chin: I need to stay small.
Collarbone: I don't want to stand out.
Under Arm: They will
criticize me again, they always do.
Top of Head: I don't know how to be successful and be
safe.
Now I recommend a few "positive" rounds of EFT to continue to bridge to the new
you who wants to and expects to feel safe while being successful.
Karate chop point: Even
though I still don't feel safe when I think of being successful, I choose to
soothe myself about this issue--Even though I'm still afraid of their reactions,
I have decided I don't care as much anymore--Even though they probably WILL
criticize me again, I accept who I am and the fact that I have been sabotaging
myself.
Eyebrow: I still feel afraid
of their reactions.
Side of Eye: What if I stop
worrying about their reactions?
Under Eye: What if I become
successful and they don't like it?
Under Nose: So what.
Chin: I deserve to be as
successful as I can be.
Collarbone: I can make myself safe now that I am an
adult.
Under Arm: I'm tired of
playing it small.
Top of Head: It's up to me to feel safe when I am
successful.
Eyebrow: I choose to feel
successful even if they react.
Side of Eye: I don't care
anymore if they don't like it.
Under Eye: I choose to be
successful in spite of their reactions.
Under Nose: I no longer need
to sabotage myself.
Chin: I appreciate who I am.
Collarbone: I'm ready to stand out.
Under Arm: I'm ready to contribute in a big way.
Top of Head: I
choose to be successful AND feel safe.
The above examples represent a good place to start if you
find yourself sabotaging your success.
Go back and review your answers to the list of questions and be as
honest as possible with yourself. Then
use each answer and each specific event ("What
happened the last time you stood out or were successful") as targets for
your EFT session on yourself.
Consider other possibilities about why you sabotage
yourself:
·
Are you afraid of losing your identity if
you give up the role of the one who usually fails?
·
Are you afraid of what might happen in your
close relationships if you suddenly become really successful?
If you are having trouble figuring out what might scare you
when you become successful in the future, try visualizing yourself successful
and add all the other sensory channels to your "picture." How will it feel emotionally? How will it feel in your body? How will it taste? What might people say and what will you hear? What will you say to others?
Karate chop point:
Even though I don't know who I'll be if I
become successful in my field, I choose to honor who I am right now--Even though
I'm afraid of losing my current identity as the mediocre one, I accept who I am
and how I feel--Even though I'm afraid of changing, I accept who I am and how I
feel.
Eyebrow: I'm so afraid of
changing.
Side of Eye: Who will I be if
I'm successful?
Under Eye: I'm not normally
the "successful one."
Under Nose: I'm afraid to
stop this habit of failing.
Chin: Who will I be without
it?
Collarbone: I need to be the invisible one.
Under Arm: I don't want to
give up this mediocre position.
Top of Head: I'm not ready to change.
Then for a few positive tapping rounds to move you forward:
Eyebrow: Maybe I am ready to change.
Side of Eye: I'm tired of
staying the way I am.
Under Eye: I need to be ready
to change.
Under Nose: I'm ready to be
strong and to change.
Chin: I appreciate becoming a
new me.
Collarbone: I appreciate being so talented.
Under Arm: I'm willing to
change.
Top of Head: I'm ready to feel free being powerful.
Eyebrow: I choose to change
at my own pace.
Side of Eye: I am ready to
feel safe moving forward.
Under Eye: I love feeling
ready to change for the good.
Under Nose: I have what it
takes.
Chin: I'm ready to
contribute.
Collarbone: I am who I am.
Under Arm: I know exactly who I am.
Top of Head: I am ready to change and move forward.
Clearing these simple yet often hidden causes of sabotage will
get you well on your way to attracting abundance. Enjoy the process!
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Carol Look, EFT Master